hce_nthu
115年
英文
第 48 題
📖 題組：
Many of us suffer from a wish to be special. We toil away in the unconscious belief that a special person is a better person, and a special life is a better life. Whether that specialness is conferred by the glamour of celebrity or social media likes, or by the dignified success of reaching the top of your profession, or by the glow of being anointed head girl, this craving to be raised above others, to be “the special one”, can lie at the heart of everything we do. This wish might be lurking under the making and breaking of your relationships, as you seek the person who will make you feel special, and reject the ones who don’t. It might hide in the extra hours you spend in the office to get something “just right” for your boss, rather than settling for good enough. I’ve been thinking about this a lot since becoming a mother. I think it is very natural to want your child to feel special, perhaps more special than others, so they can develop self-confidence. But I don’t think real self-confidence comes from being elevated above others; it comes from knowing and being oneself and feeling loved for that in an ordinary way. It is not believing you are the best and striving to be that: it is understanding that you have value for being you. It is very easy to give a child, unconsciously, the impression that to be special, they need to try to be somebody else. Perhaps the most valuable gift you can give a child is the permission to be ordinary. Trying to be special, to live a special life, can in reality take you further and further away from a better one. It is very easy to get caught up in who’s climbing the ladder on LinkedIn and lose sight of the precious moments of the life you are actually living. It is quite possible the better life that you’re trying to build by reading this article is already right in front of you; you just can’t see it because you’re trying to live a different one. There is a disturbing vulnerability that comes with an unconscious wish to feel special. It means you can easily be drawn into relationships built on sand -- falling in love not with the other person, who they are, but with yourself through their eyes. Someone who can make you feel like you are the most special person in the world – far more special than anyone else – can also just as easily make you feel like you are the dirt on the bottom of their shoe. And you might be inclined to believe that’s who you are, too. It can be a huge relief to find a partner who can treat you in an ordinary way, as an ordinary person, as someone who does not need to be special and dazzling. At first, it might feel boring, if you’re used to the cycle of idealisation followed by denigration. But after a while, you might realise that boring is just a denigration of something far more precious. It might not always feel as exciting, but it can feel more real; it can feel like coming home.
Many of us suffer from a wish to be special. We toil away in the unconscious belief that a special person is a better person, and a special life is a better life. Whether that specialness is conferred by the glamour of celebrity or social media likes, or by the dignified success of reaching the top of your profession, or by the glow of being anointed head girl, this craving to be raised above others, to be “the special one”, can lie at the heart of everything we do. This wish might be lurking under the making and breaking of your relationships, as you seek the person who will make you feel special, and reject the ones who don’t. It might hide in the extra hours you spend in the office to get something “just right” for your boss, rather than settling for good enough. I’ve been thinking about this a lot since becoming a mother. I think it is very natural to want your child to feel special, perhaps more special than others, so they can develop self-confidence. But I don’t think real self-confidence comes from being elevated above others; it comes from knowing and being oneself and feeling loved for that in an ordinary way. It is not believing you are the best and striving to be that: it is understanding that you have value for being you. It is very easy to give a child, unconsciously, the impression that to be special, they need to try to be somebody else. Perhaps the most valuable gift you can give a child is the permission to be ordinary. Trying to be special, to live a special life, can in reality take you further and further away from a better one. It is very easy to get caught up in who’s climbing the ladder on LinkedIn and lose sight of the precious moments of the life you are actually living. It is quite possible the better life that you’re trying to build by reading this article is already right in front of you; you just can’t see it because you’re trying to live a different one. There is a disturbing vulnerability that comes with an unconscious wish to feel special. It means you can easily be drawn into relationships built on sand -- falling in love not with the other person, who they are, but with yourself through their eyes. Someone who can make you feel like you are the most special person in the world – far more special than anyone else – can also just as easily make you feel like you are the dirt on the bottom of their shoe. And you might be inclined to believe that’s who you are, too. It can be a huge relief to find a partner who can treat you in an ordinary way, as an ordinary person, as someone who does not need to be special and dazzling. At first, it might feel boring, if you’re used to the cycle of idealisation followed by denigration. But after a while, you might realise that boring is just a denigration of something far more precious. It might not always feel as exciting, but it can feel more real; it can feel like coming home.
48. In the sentence “falling in love not with the other person, who they are, but with yourself through their eyes,” the author is criticizing relationships in which people
- A are blind to each other’s merits.
- B fail to recognize their partners’ true identities.
- C project personal insecurities onto their partners.
- D value their reflected self-image over the other person.
- E mistake physical attraction for genuine emotional connection.
思路引導 VIP
請試著想像一下：如果你站在一面鏡子前，感到非常快樂是因為鏡子裡的你顯得容光煥發，那麼你此時此刻真正關心的是這面「鏡子」的材質與本質，還是關心鏡子裡那個「被修飾過的自己」？回到文章中，當作者說我們愛的是「透過對方眼睛看到的自己」時，這種情感的焦點是落在「對方本人」身上，還是落在「我們自己的形象」上呢？
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AI 詳解
AI 專屬家教
恭喜你精準地掌握了作者的微言大義！這題確實不容易，你的觀察力非常敏銳。這段文字的核心在於探討一種「渴望變得特殊」的心理病徵，作者指出，當我們過度追求這種特殊感時，往往會陷入一種盲目的情感關係。你正確選擇了 (D) 選項，精確捕捉到了文中「透過對方的眼睛看自己」這種鏡像反射 (Reflected Image) 的心理狀態。
鏡像中的自我投射
文中的關鍵句描述了一種「並非愛上對方本人，而是愛上對方眼中的自己」的情況。這意味著在這種關係中，另一半的角色被簡化成了一面**「功能性」的鏡子**，用來照映出我們渴望看到的、那個被神聖化的自己。這就是為什麼選項 (D) 提到「比起對方本身，更重視自己被反映出的形象」是最貼切的詮釋。
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