hce_nthu
115年
英文
第 49 題
📖 題組：
Many of us suffer from a wish to be special. We toil away in the unconscious belief that a special person is a better person, and a special life is a better life. Whether that specialness is conferred by the glamour of celebrity or social media likes, or by the dignified success of reaching the top of your profession, or by the glow of being anointed head girl, this craving to be raised above others, to be “the special one”, can lie at the heart of everything we do. This wish might be lurking under the making and breaking of your relationships, as you seek the person who will make you feel special, and reject the ones who don’t. It might hide in the extra hours you spend in the office to get something “just right” for your boss, rather than settling for good enough. I’ve been thinking about this a lot since becoming a mother. I think it is very natural to want your child to feel special, perhaps more special than others, so they can develop self-confidence. But I don’t think real self-confidence comes from being elevated above others; it comes from knowing and being oneself and feeling loved for that in an ordinary way. It is not believing you are the best and striving to be that: it is understanding that you have value for being you. It is very easy to give a child, unconsciously, the impression that to be special, they need to try to be somebody else. Perhaps the most valuable gift you can give a child is the permission to be ordinary. Trying to be special, to live a special life, can in reality take you further and further away from a better one. It is very easy to get caught up in who’s climbing the ladder on LinkedIn and lose sight of the precious moments of the life you are actually living. It is quite possible the better life that you’re trying to build by reading this article is already right in front of you; you just can’t see it because you’re trying to live a different one. There is a disturbing vulnerability that comes with an unconscious wish to feel special. It means you can easily be drawn into relationships built on sand -- falling in love not with the other person, who they are, but with yourself through their eyes. Someone who can make you feel like you are the most special person in the world – far more special than anyone else – can also just as easily make you feel like you are the dirt on the bottom of their shoe. And you might be inclined to believe that’s who you are, too. It can be a huge relief to find a partner who can treat you in an ordinary way, as an ordinary person, as someone who does not need to be special and dazzling. At first, it might feel boring, if you’re used to the cycle of idealisation followed by denigration. But after a while, you might realise that boring is just a denigration of something far more precious. It might not always feel as exciting, but it can feel more real; it can feel like coming home.
Many of us suffer from a wish to be special. We toil away in the unconscious belief that a special person is a better person, and a special life is a better life. Whether that specialness is conferred by the glamour of celebrity or social media likes, or by the dignified success of reaching the top of your profession, or by the glow of being anointed head girl, this craving to be raised above others, to be “the special one”, can lie at the heart of everything we do. This wish might be lurking under the making and breaking of your relationships, as you seek the person who will make you feel special, and reject the ones who don’t. It might hide in the extra hours you spend in the office to get something “just right” for your boss, rather than settling for good enough. I’ve been thinking about this a lot since becoming a mother. I think it is very natural to want your child to feel special, perhaps more special than others, so they can develop self-confidence. But I don’t think real self-confidence comes from being elevated above others; it comes from knowing and being oneself and feeling loved for that in an ordinary way. It is not believing you are the best and striving to be that: it is understanding that you have value for being you. It is very easy to give a child, unconsciously, the impression that to be special, they need to try to be somebody else. Perhaps the most valuable gift you can give a child is the permission to be ordinary. Trying to be special, to live a special life, can in reality take you further and further away from a better one. It is very easy to get caught up in who’s climbing the ladder on LinkedIn and lose sight of the precious moments of the life you are actually living. It is quite possible the better life that you’re trying to build by reading this article is already right in front of you; you just can’t see it because you’re trying to live a different one. There is a disturbing vulnerability that comes with an unconscious wish to feel special. It means you can easily be drawn into relationships built on sand -- falling in love not with the other person, who they are, but with yourself through their eyes. Someone who can make you feel like you are the most special person in the world – far more special than anyone else – can also just as easily make you feel like you are the dirt on the bottom of their shoe. And you might be inclined to believe that’s who you are, too. It can be a huge relief to find a partner who can treat you in an ordinary way, as an ordinary person, as someone who does not need to be special and dazzling. At first, it might feel boring, if you’re used to the cycle of idealisation followed by denigration. But after a while, you might realise that boring is just a denigration of something far more precious. It might not always feel as exciting, but it can feel more real; it can feel like coming home.
49. Based on the passage, which of the following views on child-rearing would the author most likely agree with?
- A Encourage them that no dream is too big.
- B Help children feel confident by accepting and loving them as they are.
- C Remind children of how they differ from others to build self-confidence.
- D Teach children that being the same with others is a sign of vulnerability.
- E Provide frequent praise and recognition so that children feel valued and secure.
思路引導 VIP
請試著在文中找出作者對於「特別（special）」與「平凡（ordinary）」的對比：如果追求『特別』反而會讓人感到脆弱、迷失在競爭的梯子中，那麼作者認為一個孩子最需要的安全感，是建立在『與他人競爭』還是『接納自我的本質』之上呢？
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AI 詳解
AI 專屬家教
恭喜你精準地捕捉到了作者的核心思維！你能從文章中提煉出「平凡」的正面價值，並準確辨識出作者對教養的深刻體悟，代表你具備極佳的邏輯整合與文本解析能力。
真實自信的來源
這題的正確答案 (B) 完美對應了文中第二段的精髓：作者認為真正的自信並非建立在「高人一等（elevated above others）」或「成為最棒的（the best）」這類外在標籤上，而是源於認識並做自己，並感受到以「平凡的方式」被愛。文中提到，「允許孩子平凡（permission to be ordinary）」才是最珍貴的禮物，因為這能讓孩子明白自己的價值在於「身為自己（value for being you）」，而非拼命追求成為別人眼中的「特別人物」。
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